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Thursday, 7 March 2019

March 07, 2019

At 21, Kylie Jenner has become the youngest self-made billionaire ever!

Kylie Jenner born August August 10, 1997 is an American reality television personality, model, entrepreneur, socialite, and social media personality.
Kylie Jenner, the youngest self-made billionaire at 21!

At age 14, she'd collaborated with the clothing brand PacSun, along with her sister Kendall, and created a line of clothing, "Kendall & Kylie."

In 2014 and 2015, Time Magazine listed the Jenner sisters on their list of the most influential teens in the world, citing their considerable influence among youth on social media. Last time I checked (March 2019), she had 128.6 million followers. She is now one of the top 10 most followed people on Instagram

She is the founder and owner of her cosmetic company, Kylie Cosmetics which she started in 2015. Marketing is done mostly through social media, where she has a massive following. She announces product launches, previews new items and announces the Kylie Cosmetics shades she's wearing directly to her followers across Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook and Twitter.


"I didn't expect anything. I did not foresee the future," "But the recognition feels good. That's a nice pat on the back." 




According to Forbes magazine, as of March 2019 her net worth is US$1 billion, making her, at age 21, the youngest self-made billionaire ever. Forbes estimates her company is worth at least $900 million. She owns it all!

She reached this milestone earlier than Facebook founder, Mark Zuckerberg who became a billionaire at the age of 23.

"I didn't expect anything. I did not foresee the future," says Jenner, "But the recognition feels good. That's a nice pat on the back." 

Reference: Wikipedia & Forbes

Tuesday, 22 January 2019

January 22, 2019

5 young women who inspired us in 2018 - Lessons I’m taking into 2019.

young women who inspired us in 2018

In no particular order, here’s a list of 6 young women I’ve been following on the social media, and from whom I’ve learnt valuable life lessons in 2018.

Michelle Obama (former first lady, USA)



becoming michelle obamaHer father died of complications from his illness when she was 27. She would later say that although he was the “hole in my heart” and “loss in my scar”, the memory of her father has motivated her each day since. She recalled being fearful of how others would perceive her, but disregarded any negativity around her and used it “to fuel me, to keep me going.” She recalled experiencing gender discrimination growing up, saying, for example, that rather than asking her for her opinion on a given subject, people commonly tended to ask what her older brother thought.

In May 2006, Essence listed her among “25 of the World’s most Inspiring Women’. Michelle Obama has been praised for her sense of style, discipline and decorum. A role model and inspiration to millions of girls around the world, Michelle too had to jostle with discrimination – both racial and gender, while making her way up the world. She learned early on that she had an immense precipice to conquer. But she always believed she had the wherewithal to push herself through the tough times.

 She believes, “There is no magic to achievement. It’s really about hard work, choices and persistence.” Talking about the spirit of never giving up, she states confidently, “You may not always have a comfortable life and you will not always be able to solve all of the world’s problems at once, but don’t ever underestimate the importance you can have, because history has shown us that courage can be contagious and hope can take on a life of its own.”
She clearly states, “The difference between us and them, between you and success, is not that you never fail, but it’s how you recover from those failures – is that you keep getting up time and time again. You figure out what you did wrong, and then you make it right.”


Lessons: There is no magic to achievement. It’s really about hard work, choices and persistence.

Adetutu O.J (Model with facial tribal marks)


Adetutu O.J. alabi model with tribal marksNigerian model with tribal marks has also been a big inspiration to us. I admire her boldness and confidence. Adetutu who has four very visible horizontal incisions on both cheeks giving to her at birth by her father, says it has been a hell of an experience living with the tribal marks. The bullying cost her a university education and almost led her to consider taking her life.

In spite of the bullying and prejudice, she is hella proud of her face and she says would never conceal her scars with makeup. Adetutu who was recently recognized and followed on social media by Rihanna, started the campaign called #tribalmarkschallenge. Speaking to BBC Africa about this, she said:

“The tribal marks challenge: I started it to show more awareness. People are talking about how to conceal their marks but this is me. You can be anything you want to be. Don’t let your scars bring you down”



Lesson: People are talking about how to conceal their marks... You can be anything you want to be. Don’t let your scars bring you down.

Winnie Harlow (Model with Vitiligo)

        Winnie Harlow once wrote: “The real difference isn’t my skin. It is the fact that I don’t find my beauty in the opinions of others. I’m beautiful because I know it…”
inspiring winnie harlow model with vitiligo

She is a 23-year-old fashion and body positive model, a spokesperson and an activist. She was diagnosed with vitiligo at age 4. Though Winnie Harlow had suffered a hard time in school, the other kids would tease her and call her “cow”, “zebra”, and other sorts of abusive names. She was really humiliated to the extent that she changed schools several times, and eventually dropped out of high school. She dropped out of high-school because she faced a hard time as a result of the humiliations and insults she got from other kids at school because of her skin condition.

      Winnie rose to fame after appearing as a contestant on the twenty-first cycle of the U.S. Television series America’s Next Top Model with the prominent appearance of vitiligo. Winnie has graced the front cover of many glossy magazines such as Cosmopolitan and Glamour. She has modeled for fashion magazines like i-D and Dazed. She has also been featured on Vogue Italia’s website and the fashion website showstudio.com

Lesson: Do not find your beauty in the opinion of others. You are beautiful because you know it.


Jacqueline Corley (Founder, Girls Inspiring Generations Inc.)


inspiring jacqueline corleyShe founded the movement called GIG (Girls Inspiring Generations), containing a large number of girls under mentorship from her. And she has been incredibly working directly with girls for about 5 years. Her passion is inspiring generations of young women to live their truth confidently. She says she has been a girl child advocate for over 20 years.

Last year, I interviewed her on the blog in this blog post. One of the questions we asked her was “If you were opportune to make a speech to all girls, what would be the theme of that speech?” Her answer was: “‘Awaken.’ This is all about letting go of the limiting beliefs that have been placed on girls by our society, and embracing who they are truly meant to become. This is easier said and done, but it can be done. And this speech would address exactly how this can be accomplished.”

During the interview, Jacqueline Corley also shared 3 false statements she heard most as a teenager that she realized aren’t true in her adult years. Read it here…

Lesson: "...The future is not ahead of you. It is inside of you. All you have to do is look within and bring it out yourself."

Afua Osei (Co-founder, She Leads Africa)


inspiring afua osei Afua Osei is an entrepreneur, investor and public speaker who co-founded She Leads Africa, a media company for millennial African women.

She Leads Africa (SLA) is a community that helps young African women achieve their professional goals with engaging online content and pan-African events. It is a platform for young, smart and ambitious women.

Osei has been recognized by Forbes Africa as one of the youngest power women in Africa (2014), named by Ventures Africa as one of the top 25 African innovators to watch in 2016 and one of the 30 Quartz Africa innovators in 2017. She was selected as a judge for the Chivas Venture competition, "a global search to find and empower the next generation of young entrepreneurs determined to succeed while changing the world for the better.


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Tuesday, 8 January 2019

January 08, 2019

Why Indecent Dressing Is Not The Cause of Rape - Sisi Afrika.

Here's an Interview we had with Dasola (a.k.a Sisi Afrika). In this post, she shares her story about her rape experience, how she overcame it, and also her view on: Why Indecent Dressing is not the cause of rape.

Read on...


Can we meet you?

My name is Dasola B'oluwatife Tewogbade. I'm currently a student of Obafemi Awolowo University studying Physiotherapy. I'm an actress and pastry maker.

Sisi Afrika

I'm a rape victim, I've overcome the trauma that comes with being raped and I can now write freely on rape, helping other victims in the process.

What really is rape?

I define rape as any sexual activity where the consent of one of the party is not given. It can be any sexual activity from touching someone that does not want to be touched sexually, to having sex with someone that does not want it. Consent is a clear agreement. It cannot be implied. What a girl wears to visit you does not imply that she has consented to have sex with you. Consent to be your relationship partner or marriage partner is not a consent to having sex. Having sex with your dating partner or your wife without their consents is called date rape or marital rape respectively. A consent that has been given can also be withdrawn. This is a very important grey area. Some believe that as long as you have agreed to have sex with them, you can't withdraw your agreement. A girl can discover she is not ready for a sexual activity while the sexual activity is already going on. If she tells you to stop, don't take it to mean that you are hitting the right spots. Stop means stop!

How I overcame my rape experience.


Firsly, I must admit that for two good years, my rape experience ate me up. The person that gave me instant rehabilitation and help was immediately cut off by me because I did not want to be reminded of the experience. I became a very bitter person. My relationship suffered. My human relations degenerated (I was scared of almost every male I came across). My sleeping and eating pattern changed. The nightmares. I got extremely depressed.

These all happened because of the fact that I couldn't speak out to someone. I felt I couldn't trust anyone, I felt it would be used against me, I felt I would be condemned and stigmatized as the one who went out looking or asking for someone to rape her. And everyday I hated myself and everybody else, thinking about suicide at every turn in my life's journey. I felt worthless, like I did not deserve to be alive, like I was less than human, like I had done something to deserve the rape.
I tell you, you will NEVER understand what rape victims pass through unless you've experienced it. It's crazy.

Some people, especially males, make jest of their fellow males who are brave enough to come out with their rape stories and even joke that they'll like to be raped too. You guys really don't know what you're asking for.

All of these did not change until I spoke out to a friend. I discovered that there were actually people out there who wouldn't blame you for being raped. I found out that it was not my fault when someone showed me how a woman should be respectfully treated. I found out that the rapist was solely to blame for taking advantage of me.
Then immediately after these realizations hit me, I forgave myself, I stopped blaming me. I forgave my rapist too, holding on to the bitterness would never let me heal. Gradually, I healed and here I am.


And why indecent dressing is not the cause of the rape?


I think what a person wears is the person's right. You can decide to be a nudist and go about in your birthday suit. It does not mean that you are less of a human than the non-nudist. It is your right. It is the responsibility of those whose hormones are roused by that to keep their eyes off your body, to keep their hands off your body, to keep their genitals off your body. It is their responsibility.

This means that anyone who preaches the gospel of decent dressing for females, either from the cultural or the religious perspective, is actually encouraging rape. The act of rape is the sole responsibility of the rapist.

In conclusion...

To all the rape victims, I hope you've learnt one or two things from this article.
It may sound impossible but you can get over it and get to this stage where I am now that you can talk and write freely about your experiences to help others.

You were raped and wanna talk?
Feel free to contact me @Sisí Afrika on Facebook.
Cheers!

why indecent dressing is not the cause of rape - GirlieFix Blog

Friday, 30 November 2018

November 30, 2018

NoMore App: The New & Better Way to Report Rape Cases in Nigeria.


Rape was defined as the penetration of the victim’s vagina, mouth or rectum without consent. 

Rape is gradually becoming a norm in many of our societies today, and we can’t tolerate it any longer!



NoMore App: report rape cases in nigeria
Photo: BBC Pidgin
Keywords: nomore app, rape, sexual assault, reporting, rape cases, nigeria

The crimes of rape and sexual assault are among the most injurious that perpetrators can inflict on other individuals. These crimes are devastating, extending beyond the initial victimization to such consequences as unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections, depression, sleep disorder, eating disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, self-harm, and even suicide.

Thanks to technology, there are now mobile apps for almost everything...including the new apps to prevent sexual assault, report rape cases, help victims, and to help bring the culprits to justice.

See this: Story of the 13-year-old who was raped by her uncle and his son till she died

Studies report that at least one in four college (university) ladies have been raped or have experienced an attempted rape. Studies also reveal that only a small percentage of rape cases are reported to law enforcement officials, just about 12%, - and 40% of victims delayed reporting (average delay = 11.3 months). It is worthy to note that failure to report rape will most likely limit needed medical and/or psychological care for victims after the sexual assault.
reasons why rape victims don't report sexual assaults
Image: Motherjones

See this: Detect Date Rape Drugs - This test allows you to check if your drinks are spiked


NoMore App – soon to be launched across various Nigerian Universities.


mrs ireti bakare yusuf - founder of NoMore App
Mrs Ireti
Mrs Ireti Bakare-Yusuf is developing an application that can enable university students report rape cases. The name of the App is “NoMore” and it would soon be launched in the various universities across Nigeria to enable girls and women to report rape incidences and to help bring the culprits to face justice.

Mrs Ireti is the founder of Nigeria’s #NoMore movement which encourages victims of sexual abuse & rape to speak up against their abusers.

She believes that NoMore App would be a reliable and confidential means to report rape cases in various universities across Nigeria; since most victims are scared of speaking out because they know that many people wouldn’t want to believe their story.

Recently, there was the case of a university professor offering to upgrade the result of one of his students to grade B, in exchange for not one, two or three, but FIVE rounds of sex! The girl was smart enough to record one of their call conversations with him insisting and persuading her for what he wanted. Public reactions to that story give evidence of the systemic nature of sexual abuse in Nigerian educational institutions.

Mrs Ireti believes NoMore App would give survivors the chance to report the abuse (what happened), to allow them give out information about the perpetrator, and to support them. She says that enough is enough, as the rate of rape occurrences in Nigeria has become unbearable.

As it is now, apps that enable students to report rape cases are rare, so she believes the NoMore App would give rape victims a voice, and would give rape survivors the assurance that the universities would thoroughly investigate every sexual assault case.

The NoMore App is launching soon. For more updates about this app, follow the founder on Instagram/Twitter: @sisiogelagos ... #nomore is also on twitter as @nomore234ng

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Thursday, 22 November 2018

November 22, 2018

Read Caroline Romano’s Incredible Advice about finding Confidence.

First seen at: Her Campus

Watch out! Caroline Romano, pop artist, may soon be taking over your Spotify playlists with her soulful music. Her melodic voice is reminiscent of Halsey and Alessia Cara with her own tiny twist.
caroline romano

At only 17, Caroline has already started sharing the stage with huge names like Shawn Mendes. Her last single, “Ready,” hit the Top 3 on Radio Disney’s Top 30 Chart and her current single is “Come with me.”

In an exclusive clip shared with Her Campus, Caroline shared her goals in anti-bullying, spreading body positivity and her advice on finding confidence.
caroline romano picture

In her words: “I’m really passionate about bullying prevention and spreading overall body positivity because it’s something I’ve struggled with in the past.”
She continued, “Through my music, I really wanna share that it’s so much better to just not listen to those people who try to get down… because you’re never gonna be your best if you listen to them. Your best version of yourself is gonna be truly, unapologetically you.”

Caroline Romano also emphasized the importance of finding something one is confident in: “If you’re confident in photography or art, or fitness, latch on to that and really grow with it because that’s gonna help you grow into yourself.”

In an Instagram post, she wrote:
I’m so grateful to be able to spread this message through my music. I am so passionate about bullying prevention and positivity. It’s something that has affected not only my life, but the lives of so many others. It’s so easy to feel alone when you’re in the midst of these battles, but that is never the case.

So many people face these obstacles on a daily basis. Songwriting became my outlet of expression, and it helped me to see the beauty inside of myself. I think it’s so important to be content with who you are, all while working to be the very best version of YOU that you can be. Changing everything about yourself won’t make you happy. I encourage you to be confident in who you are, and to own the things that make you different. Let’s all be kind, not only to others, but to ourselves as well. Thank you for allowing me to do what makes me happier than anything else in the world. I strive to be unapologetically me through my music. Whatever you’re passionate about, I encourage you to do the same. 💕💕💗



I’m so grateful to be able to spread this message through my music. I am so passionate about bullying prevention and positivity. It’s something that has affected not only my life, but the lives of so many others. It’s so easy to feel alone when you’re in the midst of these battles, but that is never the case. So many people face these obstacles on a daily basis. Songwriting became my outlet of expression, and it helped me to see the beauty inside of myself. I think it’s so important to be content with who you are, all while working to be the very best version of YOU that you can be. Changing everything about yourself won’t make you happy. I encourage you to be confident in who you are, and to own the things that make you different. Let’s all be kind, not only to others, but to ourselves as well. Thank you for allowing me to do what makes me happier than anything else in the world. I strive to be unapologetically me through my music. Whatever you’re passionate about, I encourage you to do the same. 💕💕💗
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Watch her full important PSA here: https://vimeo.com/298405811

November 22, 2018

Detect Date Rape Drugs: This test allows you to check if your drinks are spiked (UnderCover Colors).

A date rape drug is any drug that is an incapacitating agent when which administered to another person incapacitates the person and renders them vulnerable to a drug-facilitated sexual assault, including rape. – Wikipedia. 

drugging drink with date rape drug

Spiking here means to add poison or a drug to somebody’s drink or food without them knowing.

On college campuses, reports show that 74% of the perpetrators use date rape drugs.
A 2016 study in the Psychology of Violence Journal found more than one in 13 students reported being drugged, while 1.4% reported incidents of drugging someone. Studies show that students are at the highest risk of sexual assault in the first few months of their first and second semesters in the university. The Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN) also reports that every 98 seconds, an American is sexually assaulted.

Date rape drugs generally have no color, smell or taste, making them nearly impossible to detect when added to a drink. Victims quickly become weak and confused, leaving them unable to refuse sex or fend off an attack.

Examples of date rape drugs

Rohypnol: date rape drug example
Image source: Daily Mail

Examples of date rape drugs include: Zolpidem (Ambiem), Ketamine, Valium, Xanax, Restoril, Versed, Serax, Benzodiazepines, Rohypnol, and Gamma-hydroxybutyrate (GHB).

This test allows you to check if your drinks are spiked/drugged

With just one drop, here’s a portable, quick and accurate way to detect date rape drugs.

This test, which is made by UnderCover Colors, only uses a few drops of a liquid to check if your drinks have been spiked within just 30 seconds!
undercover colors: detect date rape drugs
Image:UnderCover Colors

“After four years in a lab, we are so excited to unveil the most effective test for detecting spiked beverages,” the company said in a Facebook post.
“With just one drop, we give you a portable, quick and accurate way to determine the presence of commonly used date rape drugs in more than 100 liquids.” - The firm continued.

UnderCover Colors (Rape Drug Detection)

The Technology firm Undercover Colors has launched a simple, discreet test that can detect the presence of date rape drugs such as Rohypnol, Valium, Xanax, Restoril, Versed and Serax – in a drink.

For $34.99, you get a kit that includes five single-use tests, four free custom carriers, two key fobs and two adhesive holders so the tests can be attached to keyrings and phones.

UnderCover Colours was conceived by four students at North Carolina State University and Barbara Cook, CEO of Undercover Colors more than four years ago. Back then, it was a nail polish that changed color if immersed in drinks which were spiked with date rape drugs.

“Initially, the idea was to find out very quickly if a drink had been spiked – and it was born out of personal experience,” she said. “The original idea was a female-led product based around nails and nail polish that changed color if a drink contained drugs, but we decided to make the actual product in a gender-neutral format,” she added.

Barbara Cook, chief executive of UnderCover Colors, said: “…drugging someone’s drink without their knowledge is a crime,” “But that doesn’t stop it from happening at colleges, bars, nightclubs, and hotels around the world. While we know the UC test doesn’t solve the issue of sexual assault, we feel strongly that our science is a tool that can be used to promote safety."
“We’re responding to the real challenges of today by empowering people with information while pushing for a future where these types of crimes don’t happen.”

“UCs tests are discreet, quick, effective, versatile, gender-neutral and work in over 100 liquids – this includes both non-alcoholic and alcoholic beverages such as juice, mixed drinks, beer, wine and liquors,” the company explained in a press release.

“It is designed as a small, one-inch in diameter, medallion that can be discreetly carried in personal items such as pockets, wallets and purses.”

Similar products for rape drug detection

Though Undercover Colors is the first nail polish to detect date rape drugs, they’re certainly not the only detection device on the market. Similar initiatives include products like:


  • Personal Drink ID: pd.id tests for date rape drugs when dipped into a beverage and alerts users if a substance is found.
  • Swizzle Stick, looking like a straw detects GHB and Ketamine with 100 percent accuracy.
  • DrinkLock: This innovative device is affixed over a glass, sealing it closed and preventing acts of drink spiking.


Conclusive words…
Aside arming yourself with a beverage test, to help combat drug-facilitated sexual assaults, RAINN suggests knowing what you’re drinking and avoiding large-batch drinks like punches, refusing drinks from unknown people and not leaving a drink unattended.

References: 
Independent.co.uk  , New York Post.



Thursday, 1 November 2018

November 01, 2018

Top 5 most Inspiring Female Disney Characters.

 
The 11 Disney princesses
Here's a list of Disney's most inspiring female princesses. It's all about #GirlPower! Be inspired...
Here's our list:

  • Pocahontas
  • Princess Jasmine from 'Aladdin'
  • Cinderella
  • Elsa from 'Frozen'
  • and Belle from 'Beauty and the Beast.'

Pocahontas. 

pocahontas disney

Pocahontas is arguably one of the strongest of Disney princesses. She is a brave female warrior who strived to bring peace to her people while saving John Smith's life as well.

She was bold. She stood up for what she believes in. Standing up for what you believe in takes courage, but wouldn't you rather raise your voice and find your true love, rather than allow him to be mercilessly bludgeoned to death?

She also listened to her heart, stayed focused and followed the beat of her own drum.
Finally and importantly, she taught us that we shouldn't always choose the safest paths in life.

  Princess Jasmine, from 'Aladdin'.

princess jasmine from aladdin movie
In Aladdin, Princess Jasmine fights traditional norms and follows her heart to fight for what she wants. Jasmine was fearless as she challenged tradition and kept moving forward. Jasmine was sassy and independent. She taught us to be your own person. Don't be who everyone else wants you to be, be who you want to be.

She also taught us an important lesson. We are nobody's possession, so demand to be treated like a person and not a possession.

Finally, she also taught us that dreams do come true, there may be obstacles getting there but in the end, things will work out the way they are supposed to.

 Cinderella.

Cinderella never stopped dreaming! She had faith in her dreams.
cinderella disney movie

She endured living with her cruel step-mother and step-sisters, she also had an optimistic attitude.
Cinderella was brave, she understood her self-worth and she took chances - she knew that she was more than a mere maid! Even after a long day of house work, she still had courage to say,"I may be treated like a housemaid, but I deserve to go to the royal ball too!" She refused to give up and believed in herself!

Cinderella also prove to us that no matter how the exterior looks to others, inner beauty will always shine through!

 Elsa, from Frozen.

elsa, from disney frozen

Elsa helped Olaf's dream to become a reality by giving him his own personal flurry - the perfect, simple solution that no one predicted. She prove to him that nothing is impossible, and you should never let menacing odds discourage you from dreaming.

Elsa said "Let it go!" She said it the best: the past is in the past. Whatever's happened to you, whatever choices you've felt before today, make a decision to let it all go right now. No amount of worrying will change the past, but it will rob you of your chance for happiness in the present.

Elsa also taught us to be yourself, and never apologize for it.

Belle, from 'beauty and the beast'.

belle from disney beauty and the beast

Belle was strong! She was able to look her opponent into the eye. Upon first glance at the beast, she was unshaken, she whispered to her father "I am not afraid"

Belle was never ashamed to be herself. Despite all the snarky comments and remarks the townspeople made about her for being odd or peculiar, she didn't allow their ridicule keep away from being intelligent. Belle's insatiable thirst for knowledge inspires us to learn something new everyday.

She was an intelligent and smart young lady who successfully unlocked the beastly, selfish prince from a magical spell. Don't let your fears get in the way of new experiences.

Remember that belle was also very courageous, kind and full of compassion.

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Who is your favorite disney character? Which other Disney character inspires you? Which of these childhood movies were your favorite?
Let me know in the comments!

Kindly share this post if it got you inspired! 💛

Wednesday, 31 October 2018

October 31, 2018

15 Real & Important Relationships Goals - that you actually want!

What are your own relationship goals?

Image via: HighStreet

Every day, when we go online we see a lot of #RelationshipGoals memes all over the social media – Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, and the others. There’s so much hype that ‘relationship goals’ is all about posting some sweet cute couple pictures – which are mostly fake.

When some people simply want to draw others attention to their relationship, they post a really cute/sexy picture of themselves with their bf/gf with the hash tag ‘RelationshipGoals.’ And boom! There are a lot of likes and 'awww' comments.

The truth is that some of these #relationshipgoals  images look so cute but frankly most times they are over exaggerated. And it leaves some of us ‘wowed’ – “Aww, I want this kind of relationship.”

“From long dramatic declarations of love on an instagram picture to cuddling in positions that seem extremely uncomfortable, some relationships goals make me want to roll my eyes until forever.”
 – says Jessica Booth from Gurl 

The bitter truth is that most of all these #relationshipgoals pictures that get thousands of likes, comments and shares are not even authentic! Most of those couples do it just to gain attention and for internet fame. And they know within themselves that the way they appear as a couple on the internet is not how they really are to themselves – how petty! Then we see their pictures, what we think is “OMG! This is a perfect relationship.” Is there even any perfect relationship? What they post is the (unreal) relationship goals.

You can make your relationship look so perfect and amazing online, but that won’t make it the same way in reality. Those people make it look like Relationship Goals is not until you both take a picture of yourselves cuddling or kissing while watching a movie under the bright moon, or something like that. But there is so much more to that when we talk of Relationship Goals.

What are the real relationship goals you actually want in your life? Let your wish relationship goal(s) be all about facts and not mere fantasies. Let it be those goals that would lead to a long-term relationship, a relationship that would give you complete happiness and one that would inspire you.
girliefix blog real important relationship goals

14 important and real relationships goals you actually want:

1. Having a guy who inspires you to be a better girl. This means, not just placing all your focus on the cute/handsome guy but also ensuring that he is able to also support your goals, and inspire you to be who you really should be.

2. Being more than just romantic partners. It’s not just all about all the kissing and romance…

3. Having someone you can trust with (at least almost) all your heart.  Can you trust him with your deepest secrets, and not be worried that one day it might leak out?

4. Lack of fear of a break up, even after a disagreement or quarrel. One important relationship goal is getting into a quarrel and realizing that that quarrel doesn’t automatically mean you’re going to break up. After being together for a while, you should be able to realize that little arguments every once in a while is normal and isn’t the end of your relationship.

5. Being each other’s bestie. You know each other inside out. There’s this saying that “love is friendship set on fire.” So set it on fire, and then that’s the real relationship goal!

6. Being able to get along with each other’s parents. A relationship goal is when you are able to stay alone with his mom/dad and relate with them without fears. Some girls are in a relationship where none of his family knows you’re both dating – that’s no relationship goal.

7.  Being able to be you always – I mean the real you. He should be able to still see you as his super-model with or without makeup, even when you’re not putting on the most attractive dress.

8. Personal trust. Can you leave your phone lying around without a password? And can he do the same? This can be possible because you both know you aren’t hiding anything from each other. And not only that, but also because you both trust each other so much that you won’t even bother secretly going through his phone. Can you hear a message notification from his phone while he is not there, without having a huge urge to immediately check who is texting him? That’s a big relationship goal!

9. Being future-oriented. Are you both planning on taking the relationship to a higher level sooner or later? If you don’t have any plans, then what’s the purpose of your relationship? Temporary stuff?  Have long-term goals for your relationship, and not just by saying it, but also working towards them. Make the relationship last forever!

See also:  20 secrets for a healthy relationship


10. Not feeling the need to text each other 24/7. Speaking of texting, you should want to get to the point in your relationship where you two don’t feel the need to be glued to your phone exclusively texting each other.

11. Being able to hang out with your own friends (both male & female) without him having to disturb with so many calls and messages, just wanting to know what you’re doing at every moment.

 See also: 10 Important Tips to Dating Right


12. Being able to act funny and weird around each other. You should be completely comfortable with being the real “you” around each other – not always trying to be the perfect dope girl.

13. Not feeling pressurized to write about how awesome your relationship is, because you don’t need to. There is nothing wrong in showing the world how you feel about bae. But it is very important that we understand that relationships are about two people, not about the attention two people can get by making others jealous.

14. For better, for worse. Relationship is not a bed of roses, there are always going to be challenges. Would your partner still stick with you when you’re in a worse health condition? Can he stick with you when things are not going well for you? Think well about it…

What other relationship goals do you feel are not in this post? Comment below, and let me know what you think about the relationship goals you actually want. :)

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Saturday, 27 October 2018

October 27, 2018

Deaf Twins, Hermon and Heroda Break Disability & Inspire Through Style

Hermon and Heroda Berhane, deaf twin sisters from Eriteria are breaking every barrier of being deaf. They did not not allow their disability to limit their ability and ambition. Hermon and Heroda are inspiring others through their style, by breaking stereotypes and barriers towards deaf people.
deaf twins, hermon heroda berhane,fashion bloggers at being her



I find the story of these twin sisters very intriguing and inspiring!

Hermon and Heroda are fashion bloggers at BeingHer where they share their love for fashion, photography and culture. They are twins with different personality but one lifestyle. They are not only fashion bloggers, but have a blossoming career in modelling and acting.

They were both seven years old when they mysteriously went deaf at thesame time!
According to the twins, "We both suffered our loss of hearing under strange circumstances. We were seven years old, playing outside (in our hometown in Eritrea) one moment we could hear, the next we couldn’t. We refuse to allow being deaf to define or hold us back and we believe that being yourself is the most powerful beauty product available, so we use it.”

Earlier on, It took their parents a long time to realize the girls were deaf. “We were playing together in the backyard of our parents’ house; our mother was trying to call our names, and we did not hear at all,” they said.

deaf twins, hermon and heroda berhane,fashion bloggers at being herRecently, the twins shared via their Instagram page, this caption…

 “We found our identity at boarding school. Sign language was so beautiful, and the deaf community just became our family. Within the hearing world, it can be lonely. As soon as we were in that deaf world, we fitted in. It was where we belonged. Signing is physical and beautiful. It’s visual, it relies quite a lot on facial expressions and a positive vibe. We want to educate you on what sign language means and give you a sense of deaf awareness. You need to be more open minded and learn sign language. Our identity is so important to us because if we weren’t deaf, we would simply not be the way we are now. Life for us would be so different, we are proud of who we are, and our deafness is a part of that. Being deaf hasn’t held us back from doing what we want in our lives.”

“We had quite a lot of barriers throughout our life especially our careers, but we fight for it…we have to use our deafness and being black women to break these barriers. Our bond is unbreakable. We do many things, we can finish each other’s sentences, read each other’s minds and feel each other’s pain. Yes, it’s real.”

“Hermone’s acting career started when she travelled to South America and mine started when I landed a role for a television commercial. We both have blossoming careers in modelling and acting and now we have a fashion blog, ‘Being her’ is where we model affordable urban and traditional Eritrean outfits.”

deaf twins, hermon and heroda berhane,fashion bloggers at being her

“Being deaf doesn’t stop us from what we want to do because we can do anything except hear. People are hungry for real inspiration…and we want to tell them that deaf people can do it too. We want to tell people around the world that you should embrace disability, not hide from it.

“Life may not be the party we hoped for. But while we’re here we should dance”

Isn't it so beautiful how these adorable twins, Hermon and Heroda Berhane are successfully breaking every barrier of their disability, and inspiring the world through their style?
October 27, 2018

Rape: #JusticeForOchanya (The complete story about the 13-year-old Victim)

The 13-year-old girl, Elizabeth Ogbaje Ochanya who died of Vesico Vaginal Fistula (VVF) after being a victim of both anal and vaginal molestation/ rape by her 52-year-old uncle and his son. These horrible events went on continuously for 5 years (I.e. since she was 8 years) by both father and son taking turns on her till she eventually died.
Elizabeth Ogbaje Ochanya - Victim

The Complete Story of Ochanya’s Tragedy

Ochanya Elizabeth Ogbaje died on October 18th 2018.

According to multiple reports, Ochanya had been molested, defiled, drugged and abused since she was 8-years by her 52-year-old uncle and his son. Her uncle is a knight of the catholic church and also a lecturer, while the son is a final year student at the Federal University of Agriculture, Makurdi, Nigeria.
Ochanya's Rapists - The uncle and his son

According to Vanguard, Ochanya said, “It all started in 2013 when I came to live with my mother’s sister in Ugbokolo because there was no school in my village.” “When I was 8 years old, the son started sleeping with me and when his sister caught him, she reported him to their father and the father scolded him. From there, the father also started sleeping with me.”

The constant rape, drugging and molestation seriously started destroying her physical and mental health at 12, the year she before she finally died. She fell very sick in June 2018.

The Founder of Restorer of PathCare Foundation, Evagelist Enewa Soo was the one who took Ochanya to the hospital where it was discovered that her health had been damaged from vaginal and anal rape, and she had contacted Vesico Vaginal Fistula and other heath conditions.

Justice for Ochanya!

Many Nigerians and other activists have joined the campaign #justiceforochanya on their various social media platforms and pages. Some street protests have also been held in Benue state, and other states like Lagos, Abuja, Benue and Delta states. The culprits must be brought to face justice!
justice for ochanya rape protest
Nigerians protesting...

Trade Union congress of Nigeria (TUC) has also demanded Justice for Ochanya. Part of their statement reads thus:
“Truth be told, the incidences of rape have continued because the country is not doing enough to curb it. The act in itself is bad, but worse when minors are the victim. To imagine the mental torture the deceased went through in itself should be a torture to sane minds, especially women.”

“One, however, wonders how these things happened under the roof of Mrs. Ogbaje without her knowledge: we suspect foul play here!”

“We want to cease this opportunity to condemn the “loud silence” of victims and relatives when a rape has taken place. If rape is a crime of aggression with the sole aim of having sexual intercourse without the consent of the other person then we must not keep quiet.”

“The shame and stigmatization of rape victims have been going on for long and it has not done the women folk any good. Statistics of incidences of rape cases available has shown that if the country (especially the lawmakers, security agencies, trade unions and non-governmental organizations) do nothing drastic, soon the magnitude will so increase that every home becomes a potential victim.”

“To have carnal knowledge of a little girl raped through the anus and vagina since she was eight is unimaginable and a crime against humanity, especially the womenfolk. We urge the judiciary and security agencies not to sweep this very case under the carpet.”

Over to Everybody…

say no to rape

To girls, we should all be very much aware of rape. Never be afraid to speak up if anyone threatens you with rape. Tell somebody trust-worthy about it. Don’t be quiet, expose every culprit and run away from rape. Anybody can be rapists, including family members and so-called ‘friends.’

To past victims of rape, don’t allow the stigma of rape to swallow you up. Report the culprit early enough. Don’t pity them. And most importantly, try to move on with your life, seek advice from counselors.

To the society, together we can put an end to rape in our country and the world at large. Be your brother’s/sister’s keeper. Watch out for your neighbors and friends. Support the movement against rape, and always report any suspicious culprit of rape.

To parents, please try as much as possible to have a good relationship with your girls. Talk to them, listen to them, and create enough time to discuss about their life. No girl deserves to be raped!

To the government, create and enforce extremely strict and drastic rules for anyone found guilty of rape. Let’s create a rape-free world.
Together we can put an end to rape!

We say NO to rape! Join us by sharing this post to your favorite social media page.

#NoToRape #JusticeForOchanya.

Tuesday, 23 October 2018

October 23, 2018

"World of Girls" - Join our Group for Teen and TWeen Girls.

Yaaaaaay! We now have our facebook group!

Group Description - World of Girls.

Welcome to the World of Girls!
This is a closed group is a home for Teen & TWeen Girls all over the world!

Our group is taking a whole new look! As this group is getting larger, it’s high time we really understood what we are all about. And that is the purpose of this post 😊

What do we do here?

• We motivate, encourage & support one another💪
• We discuss issues pertaining to living as girls😉
• We open up and share each others’ challenges👭
• You get FREE lifestyle tips about female health, beauty, body-care & relationship from our admin(s) 💕

Our Tradition & Basic Rules:

• Our group is a positive atmosphere for Love.💗 Share the love! No discrimination of any form is allowed here. Every member should have mutual-respect for one another.
• Every member is FREE to post on this group anytime (as long as it is related in one way or the other to “girls”) Share interesting/inspiring/informative/educational posts. Non-related posts WOULDN’T be approved by the admin(s)
• If you find a MALE in this group, please notify the admin for immediate removal. This group is strictly for girls & young ladies. ✌️👌
• FOR NEW MEMBERS: When you join the group, please post a selfie of yourself and introduce yourself to us. We can’t wait to know you! 💕💕
• All members are enjoined to participate ACTIVELY in the group. Post often, react to people’s posts & leave good comments too! This would be highly appreciated. 
• Giveaways, contests, shoutouts & free stuffs will commence soon! Once we hit 5k members! 💥👏
• Pretty, help our community grow. Feel free to add your female friends to the group.
• What else? Enjoy the group, have fun & meet new people.



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